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sanctuary

 

In-home appointments are often available.

Please be in touch if this appeals to you.

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That’s why I want to speak to you now.

To say: no person, trying to take responsibility for her or his identity, should have to be so alone. There must be those among whom we can sit down and weep, and still be counted as warriors. (I make up this strange, angry packet for you, threaded with love.)

I think you thought there was no such place for you, and perhaps there was none then, and perhaps there is none now; but we will have to make it, we who want an end to suffering, who want to change the laws of history, if we are not to give ourselves away.
— Adrienne Rich
 

how do you want to feel?

This space is for you if:

You want to feel a sense of belonging and connection.
You want to enter into dialogue with your truest emotional self.
You want to practice exploring change and choice.
You want to treat your own true life as sacred.
You want to engage your complexitycuriosity, and courage.
You want to practice the tools of intuition and self-compassion.
You want to find new ways to interact with your stories.
You want an empathetic, truth-telling witness.
You want to know how to define and support your own boundaries.
You want to take the next right step. And then the next.
You want to feel alive, held, heard, and seen.

This space is for you also if:

you want to feel less alone
you want to feel something

you want to feel as though you have a choice
you want to want to be alive
you want to feel like something can make sense
you want to hate yourself a little less
you want to mark your boundaries with something more than pain, or trauma, or grief
you want to feel like someone sees you, believes you
you want to feel less lost
you want to feel less alone

In Sanctuary, we will listen for what's between the layers (because you are a gorgeous, complex creature, with layers upon layers to explore and uncover and map!) and we’ll get real cozy with what's made its home there. We’ll practice greeting fear and shame, grief and hope, vulnerability, with the reverence they're asking of us. Listen: I know that you are one thing and also its shadow. One thing and also its secret other thing. I know that you are doing the best you can and that sometimes that really fucking hurts. I know that you are your stories and also that your stories can change. Let’s see what it’s like to revel in the joy and pain and beauty and messiness that comes from living (and wondering what it’s like to live) a wildhearted, expansive life.

When you choose to be in sanctuary with me, you are choosing to feel deeply held and trusted.
You are choosing to feel witnessed and heard and believed.
You are choosing to get your hands dirty and your heart seen.

you want to live
a wildhearted, expansive life.

I’ve never met anyone who can hold space the way Favor can.

And I’ve never been in a space where I felt so safe and curious about putting myself in an ultimate,
deep state of vulnerability.
— Emma
Favor never told me what to do or which way to go, but instead she opened a space in my life for me to mend, to lean into broken places, and to trust myself in a way that I had never had the opportunity to try. I don’t think we can begin this kind of work without someone who can be both a witness and a doorkeeper -
Favor did this for me.
— Gabe

In Sanctuary, I will sit with you in deep attention and gentle curiosity, holding space for the wisdom of
all that you are and all that you have been and all that you will be.

I will help you learn to listen to yourself, to the deepest,
most quiet voices within you.
I will hold space with love and attention so that you can practice
your own vulnerability in truth-telling.

I will ask open, honest questions and
I will hear you, I will see you.

I will be gentle with you. I will be kind. I will tell the truth and I will trust you. Together we will be courageous.

I believe connection
is medicine,
and deep listening is my prayer.

Through our time together I have found that my ability to connect and be receptive to others has grown, that I am better able to hear and be heard on a root level. Since working with you, I find that life has gotten so much nicer when you can accept the nuances and chaos.
Beauty in the madness.
— Vetch
“Through my work with Favor, I learned the art of gentleness with myself. I moved away from self-judgment and shame, and moved towards compassion and self-care. Because of Favor’s presence, openness, and genuine caring, I was brave enough to be vulnerable before her and speak my truth - and I began to do that more in my own life- to myself and to others. 
— Claire
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favor holds space

Working with Favor has allowed me to learn to be open and vulnerable and explore what it is to be a human. It is okay to feel all of your feelings. In fact, it makes you more powerful.
— Alice Glee

how does it work?

You have come a long way to get here.
Every single thing has brought you to this place,
and now you are choosing a moment of stillness, of reverence.
A moment for your precious heart to hear its own voice.

And that can be terrifying. I know.
I know also that there must be those among whom we can sit down and weep, and still be counted as warriors.

I will sit with you in that fear. I will sit with you and we can become cartographers, mapping the landscape of the unknown.
We can become weavers, following the threads of choice.
We can become deepsea divers and tallest tree climbers and explorers of hidden worlds.

You've found me here. I'm so glad. Welcome.
Let's schedule an exploratory conversation. If we both agree that working together feels true,
we'll find our right ways to walk together.

You can choose to work together face-to-face, just the two of us, or in a Listening Circle
You can choose to talk on the phone and hear each other's voices.
You can choose to video call and see each other's faces and hear each other's voices.
You can choose to write each other letters or text messages.

It's up to you, always.

 
Favor is a true listener who is devoted to the betterment of others. She has the incredible gift of creating safe space for others to illuminate the hidden corners of the their emotional landscape.
— Graham
 

we can choose to be who we need.

 

Favor is the most compassionate, empathetic counselor I have ever worked with.
She truly listens, and helps one to find the path that is best for them.
— Claire